| Transformation for the Second Chakra – Love Beyond Dependency Level One – Opening to Intimacy Love is a major life lesson for everyone. Love is such a nourishment, because it is a basic human need to feel loved, yet love can also bring much suffering. Inside each of us there is a thirst for pure love, unconditional love, but more often the love we find in our lives is mixed with dependency, domination, jealousy, possessiveness and fear. Our longing for love takes us into relationship with another person, but relationship means to encounter the personality and the unconscious behavior of another person and that brings up our own unconsciousness. When we approach life as an opportunity for spiritual growth, we can also bring the light of awareness to help transform our normal unconscious love into conscious unconditional love. In order to do that we can use the understanding of the chakra system, it is the second chakra where we find ourselves in the love-hate polarity. Whether it is in our marriage, with a lover, or with our parents and family, it is the energy that is stored in the second chakra that influences the way we feel and act in our relationships. In Part One we our opening our ability to feel. Due to emotional difficulties in our past relationships we learn to cover our feelings, or to cut off from them. The emotions we feel in love and relationship make us feel vulnerable, fragile and we become afraid to get hurt. To protect ourselves we develop shields of defense. But that blocks us from our natural ability to feel emotions, which in turns limits our ability to love. If we want love in our lives and if we want loving relationships, we need to relearn the natural ability to feel feelings. During this group we will be exploring our feelings especially when in closeness to other people, we will also explore our defenses and learn to start relating in more conscious ways. That we will us the right foundation to tend move onto Part Two “Conscious Relating.” “Everybody wants intimacy because otherwise you are alone in this universe -- without a friend, without a lover, without anybody you can trust, without anybody to whom you can open all your wounds. And the wounds cannot heal unless they are open. The more you hide them, the more dangerous they become. They can become cancerous. Intimacy is an essential need on the one hand, so everybody longs for it. But he wants the other person to be intimate, so that the other person drops his defenses, becomes vulnerable, opens all his wounds, drops all his masks and false personality, stands naked as he is. And on the other hand, everybody is afraid of intimacy -- with the other person you want to be intimate with, you are not dropping your defenses. This is one of the conflicts between friends, between lovers: nobody wants to drop his defenses and nobody wants to come in utter nudity and sincerity, open -- and both need intimacy.” Osho - The Hidden Splendor |
